Nollywood actress Adebimpe Oyebade, popularly known as Mo Bimpe, has opened up about a painful period in her life when she was excluded from social gatherings because she did not have children.
The actress, who is married to fellow actor Lateef Adedimeji, shared the experience in an emotional post after attending the birthday celebration of baby Rakeem, the child of social media personality Priscilla Ojo and Tanzanian singer Juma Jux, in Lagos on Saturday.
According to Mo Bimpe in an Instagram post on Sunday, the event triggered memories of a difficult season when some friends and associates deliberately left her out of occasions centred on children, including baby showers, naming ceremonies and birthday parties.
She said returning home from the celebration made her emotional, not because of the party itself, but because it reminded her of the challenges she faced before becoming a mother.
The actress recalled feeling confused and hurt after repeatedly noticing that she was not invited to events organised by people she knew personally and maintained cordial relationships with.
“There was a time when I wasn’t invited to baby showers, naming ceremonies, children’s birthdays, or anything related to kids,” she wrote.
She explained that she initially believed the exclusions were accidental, only to later discover that some people intentionally left her out because she had no child at the time.
Mo Bimpe said the experience was particularly painful because she genuinely enjoyed being around children and wanted to celebrate happy moments with friends and loved ones.
“At the time, it hurt deeply. Not because I wanted pity, but because I loved children. I wanted to celebrate with people. I wanted to share in their joy,” she stated.
The actress used the opportunity to draw attention to the emotional struggles often faced by women dealing with infertility or delays in conceiving, noting that the burden goes beyond what many people see publicly.
She said women in such situations often contend with anxiety, societal pressure, intrusive questions and personal heartbreak while trying to maintain a brave face.
“What many people don’t realize is that struggling to conceive is already hard enough. The waiting is hard. The questions are hard. The insults are hard. The silent prayers are hard,” she said.
Mo Bimpe urged people to be more compassionate and inclusive, stressing that a woman’s value should not be defined by whether or not she has children.
She encouraged people not to isolate women facing fertility challenges but to continue showing them love, friendship and support.
“A woman without a child is not less deserving of love, friendship, inclusion, or celebration,” she added.
Reflecting on her own journey, the actress revealed that her story eventually changed, as she is now a mother of triplets.
She said her transformation from a woman waiting for a child to becoming a mother strengthened her faith and convinced her that difficult situations can change unexpectedly.
“There was a time I had no child. Today, I am a mother of triplets,” she wrote.
The actress also offered words of encouragement to women who are still trying to conceive, urging them not to lose hope despite the challenges they may be facing.
She acknowledged that waiting for a child can be emotionally exhausting and sometimes isolating, especially when it appears that others are moving ahead in life.
However, she maintained that perseverance and faith remain important, expressing confidence that many women would eventually have their own testimonies.
“If there is one thing my life has taught me, it is that God can change a story faster than anyone expects. What feels delayed is not denied,” she said.
Mo Bimpe concluded by sending prayers and support to women still trusting God for children, assuring them that their stories were not over.